August’s Memo: Learning to Trust Yourself
“Trusting yourself involves the willingness and confidence to rely on your own integrity, abilities, and character to meet the challenges of a particular experience, or all of life for that matter.”
-Judith Johnson (Speaker/Coach)
“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson (Philosopher)
“Within you is a fountain of wisdom. And you sell yourself short every time you allow some authority to define your limitations and cage your potential. Even if that authority lives in your head.”
-Vironika Tugaleva (Ukrainian Author)
Our culture often encourages risk reduction as a guiding principle from which to make life decisions, sometimes at the expense of trusting one’s innate and intuitive wisdom. If we only seek to minimize pain, suffering, loss and conflict, as humans we can find ourselves living from a place of fear – disconnected from that true happiness that our internal compass is pointing toward. Can we listen to and trust our intuition, that whisper of knowing? It takes conscious awareness to pro-actively trustyourself.
As time passes, we can accumulate clutter in our minds that may no longer serve each of us. I’ve realized that life isn’t all about learning new stuff and just layering the information acquired to date. Sometimes it is about rearranging the information and even unlearning habits, behaviors and limiting beliefs so that we can remember and trust the truth of who we are.
For example, what do you do when you find yourself focused only on minimizing your risk (of harm, pain, and suffering) at the cost of trusting yourself to focus on your true happiness? What would that look like?
It happened to me when I found myself staying in a passionless job, and the longer I stayed in this work the more I grew to fear change. I feared the loss of income and benefits, and I feared the imaginary job rejection if I sought the job I really wanted. I’ve seen it happen to others too. Some people fear rejection and resist sharing their passion and authentic gifts with the world – whatever they may be (cooking, music, art, sewing, woodwork, etc.) I’ve seen it in my friends who fear reaching out to connect in relationship with others to create the loving relationships they crave. Living with risk minimalization in the drivers seat is pervasive in our culture, and our self-trust often takes a backseat or is thrown out the car window altogether. What if we were to put our main focus on our happiness, and trust ourselves to guide us in the right direction?
How To Trust Yourself
When you find yourself unhappy and focused on fears – what can you do? This wise advice comes from Judith Johnson (Author, Speaker, Life coach, Interfaith Minister). She recommends the following three steps:
- 1. Practice keeping focused on the present moment until that becomes a good habit. Stop worrying about the future…this allow you take appropriate actions in real time, the only time frame we can act in, the present.
- 2. Observe yourself and notice,, even make a list of those life experiences when you had self-trust, and when you didn’t have it. It allows you to get clear and recognize what trust looks and feels like for you. [When I’m in trust I’m relaxed, comfortable, open, creative, intuitive, etc. See the video for how trust impacts your brain chemistry, and supports these feelings.]
- 3. Practice doing more things that bring great trust…breaking the habit of doing those things that do not. Let go of the “should”, the “have to” and the demands, expectations, fears, illusions and delusions! The more you surrender into trust, the more it becomes an automatic response.
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